Dear Diary,

When I was younger, I was a girl who dreamed of being married and living happily ever after. I believed that if you you were in a relationship with love that you would never go through problems. Boy as I got older my life and views has certantly changed. I realize now that in order to have a great relationship, you have to go through some ish.

I remember going over wedding songs with Cas and he said that he wanted our wedding song to be New Edition’s “Can You Stand the Rain.” When he said that I wanted to punch him in his throat but then I begin to listen to the lyrics over and over. Listening to the song really opened my eyes to love and relationships in general. Yes, everybody love you when things are great and life is good but what happens when the storm come? Are you going to be in the rain with me, running around with no umbrellas? Most people wont be around when bad ish happen or when a change of life come. Great song choice Cas but it aint happening (laughs).

When choosing a mate, you have to ask yourself can my love for this person stand the test of time? Will I still love and want to be with this person if he was in a car accident and was no longer able to dick me down the same way? What about if he lost his income and wasn’t able to buy you all of those expensive things you like?

These questions are real because in life, real shit happens and your answers are what determines whether your love is real or is it just plain fantasy. A couple who never went through anything drastic dont know what it is to ride or die for their mate. You need a real test to have a testimony of love.

Many single people and those who are in new relationships have ideologies about what they think relationships are but they wouldnt know what a relationship was if you smacked them in the face with one. Relationships are getting thru the rough patches and still making it work. It will not always be dreamy, sometimes bad times will come but it’s up to us to make it through and make it, TOGETHER.

So the next time you and your man is going through it, remember you’re not good until you make bad GREAT. Relationships that go through it, GET THROUGH IT.

Share your stories of standing the rain with your man!!!!! Also, please share!