Dear Diary,

I received a great response on my post about Jay-Z and Beyonce’s relationship and the song, “Love on Top.” Reading some of the comments and some of the things my supporters said on Twitter really has me thinking. I ended the post basically saying that a man would put your love on top once he sees that you put your own love on top. I said it and I meant it with all of my heart.

There are many beautiful women in the world and for the ones who are not, there are many things that can make her beautiful such as well (such as weave, butt shots, fake tits, whatever) but there aren’t many women who love themselves. I’ll use Kim Kardashian as an example. Kim is a cute girl no matter what you may think of her, she always keep herself together (looks wise). She looks great on the outside but inside but her male trail (yes, credit me if you use this) shows me that she doesn’t love herself.

TIONNAISM:

Male Trail: When you go from penis to penis without giving yourself a break (or a coochie fan). After a while there are so many footsteps, it leaves a trail.

Being able to be by yourself (when necessary) is a huge sign of loving yourself. Now some may think that designer labels and money can buy you self love but, that my dear is not the case. Sure looking good could make you feel good but that my friend is a temporary feeling. Self love is something that many people are not blessed to have and Kim Kardashian can shoot 90 seasons of a reality show and bone every rapper/singer/basketball player until her cooch turns blue and still won’t be able to purchase the love that she is looking for.

TIONNAOLOGY: Seeking the love you are missing within yourself from another person is a deadly sin in this love thing.

I hate hearing women say that they’re man is their better half. I always correct them and say, “no, you are your better half and when you and him (two whole individuals) come together it’s just better.” Finding love within yourself means taking the time out to be with YOURSELF. People are so desperate these days that they settle for anything someone is throwing out to them just because they are afraid to be alone. But like I say in my award winning book, Girl, Get Your Mind Right! , you are alone anyway if you are dealing with some corny loser who doesn’t treat you right, who don’t come home at night, and treat you like dog poo. Sure the body may be there but his mind, heart, and spirit is somewhere at the next chick’s house. Why settle for that?

Sometimes when you want to love yourself, you have to first pray; I don’t know if you believe in God or not but I do and prayer really helped me find myself for myself. The next thing you have to do is take off all of your clothes and look yourself in the mirror. Look into that mirror and tell yourself that you love you no matter how fat the gut is or no matter how much you wish you had a butt like Nicki.

TIONNAOLOGY: Loving yourself is beyond the physical, it is all in the mind; and when you change your frame of mind, you change your LIFE.

Lastly, spend some time with YOU. Take YOU to the movies, take YOU bra shopping, take YOU for some ice cream…Treat yourself good. How would he know how to treat YOU if YOU don’t know how to treat YOU? Self-esteem and confidence is my number 1 defense when it comes down to not falling too hard for anyone (not even my man). My confidence and self-esteem keeps me from being too emotional. It allows me to make better decisions and it definitely shows men that I am not to be played with. One time I was in the barbershop talking to one of the Barbers and I was explaining a situation to him and he stopped me and said, “he knew what kind of lady he was talking to. He knew he couldn’t say that to you.” The Barber saying this made me feel good because it showed me that the energy that I put out to the men around me is the energy I am getting back which is respect, dignity, and pride. Now if I had showed any signs of weakness, I wouldn’t receive the response I do from men who are in my presence.

All in all, never allow the loneliness to take over you and your mind. Be a better person to YOU. Know your strengths, know your weaknesses, but overall know YOURSELF. You should never compromise the love you have for yourself to be with someone else. People who love themselves set standards for their lives, for their existence, and never allow anyone THICK PENIS or not to take advantage of that love. I am the PRESIDENT of the I LOVE ME club. I have it tatted on me and I definitely hold myself in high regard because I understand that a man is not my JESUS and that in the end when it’s all said and done, all I got is GOD and ME.

My I love me tat on my wrist

I hope reading this help some of you ladies because Lord knows we all need some inspiration sometime. Remember, Love is precious, love is kind, and most of all love for self is what makes you SHINE!