Category Archives: Lost

Nov 21 2012

How to Be Single & Happy on Thanksgiving! The Dos & Donts!!!

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Dear Diary,

This is the first Thanksgiving that I am single since about 2006. I am not really a Thanksgiving person so being single on Thanksgiving doesn’t bother me in the least bit. Hey, I spent Hurricane Sandy alone… If I can do that, I can do anything! LOL.

Well, this year I’ve had some offers to attend Thanksgiving dinner (including one from my ex) but I decided that I will get some well needed rest like I did for the past few thanksgivings.

So, you are single and you are feeling lonely. Here is my Dos and Donts so you can have a great holiday without the pressure of feeling like a loser…

#1 Do: Thank God for making it to see another Thanksgiving. Hey, there are many people in the world that didn’t live to see this day so you better praise him.

#1 Dont: Don’t show up at your ex or current boo house uninvited. It makes you look like a loser and you are just punnishing yourself no matter how fly you look once you get there.

#2 Do: Spend time with your family because this is the time of year where family matters most. Consider yourself lucky that you have a family. Be good to your peoples!

#2 Dont: Don’t go over any of your EXES house no matter how close you are to them or their family. I don’t care if you were invited. Stay your ass home! An ex is an ex for a reason and you don’t need to cloud your judgment or your life with bullcrap. Dinners will just make you feel funny and will lead your ex on. He or she may start to feel like you want them back! Spending Thanksgiving with exes just make things even more confusing.

#3 Do: Do understand that if you are talking to a dude and he hasn’t invited you over for Thanksgiving or attempt to spend Thanksgiving with you or your family that he may not be feeling you like that or have made other plans.

#3 Dont: Don’t take it personal when you’re not invited. It’s cool! Knowing is beautiful and half the battle! Also, don’t make no excuse for why you are not spending the holiday with them. If someone ask, just straight up say, “He didn’t invite me.”

#4 Do: Hit your family and friends and say Happy Thanksgiving or Happy Holidays… Once again your peoples are everything.

#4 Dont: Don’t you dare hit no dude up on Thanksgiving day or the night before wishing him a happy holiday or to see what he is doing. No girly, you are too cool for school and too busy for that! And even if you are not too busy for that- you better pretend you are. No need to look desperate or put yourself out there. Let him hit you up first and if he doesn’t, don’t sweat it!

#5 Do: If you get too bored, turn off your phone and get some nice sleep or watch some movies on Netflix that you always wanted to see. Take time for yourself because only you can avoid being unhappily single on Thanksgiving. You can also make dinner for a homeless family or serve food at a homeless shelter. There are so many different ways to feel appreciated on this holiday.

#5 Dont: Don’t allow his ass to come over no 9pm after all the food is cold (unless he had to work). You are no second choice and you can’t allow that kind of fuckery into your life! 9pm is too late… Sorry, don’t even answer your phone!

I hope these tips help you. Have a great holiday guys and eat a lot and go to the gym on Friday and work it off hunny!!!

Love you for free!!!

Tionna

Jul 29 2012

Dating: Finding Someone New After a Long Term Relationship!

Dear Diary,

Life is funny sometimes. You just never know who is in the background waiting for you and your dude to break up. I truly believe that people who just got out of relationships need time to grow and time to heal from the past relationships but if you are over it and over him, DO YOU!

I’m laughing because we always think a person had to be cheating with the next person if they get into a relationship right away after a break up but I am living proof that that is not true. Recently, I decided to end things with my fiance’, who I was with for 4 years. As soon as word broke out in my small circle about me being a single lady, a guy friend asked can he take me out. I knew dude for ever and wouldn’t normally go out so quick but I said, why not? And accepted his offer. I didn’t know what to call it. OMG! Is this a date? Is this chilling? Whatever it was, I knew I had to be cute.

I was ready!!!! Yes, ready to enjoy myself. I had no baggage left from my past relationship (when it’s over, it’s over) and was sure that the chapter with my ex was FINITO. Yes ladies, be sure that you don’t want the ex before you go on a date with the next.

Anyway, I looked cute; not too sexy and not too classy… Just hot! Needless to say, I had one of the most romantic dates ever. He was a pure gentlemen and I was very impressed. I never believed in a million years that I would be on a date with a man I knew my whole life but walla magic, here we were on a date, chilling, and enjoying each other’s company. It was a great feeling.

Now, I told you that to tell you this. Life is too short to not go on dates because you are too afraid to explore the world and hurt people feelings. When your relationship is over, you have the key to open any new door you would like to open. You just have to be ready to embrace a new world. That is why I started my new DATING GIRL Movement. It’s for the girls who dare to move on with their life and is super-happy about their new or old freedom. Freedom could be from your ex, freedom could be the pass to explore a new world, freedom could be anything you make it as long as you are happy.

I don’t want my ladies rebounding but hey, can’t get mad if another dude catch the steal. When you are a hot commodity, men are going to come and try to get you as soon as they find out you no longer have a owner and I love it. I love a man who is bold and who respected my relationship enough to wait. There are not many men like that out there…the best part of my date was that he didn’t talk about sex or try to get in my drawers. Ugh, I hate when men do that. You don’t ever have to feen for the panties, we know if and when were going to give them up.

Needless to say, me and my Mystery Man (I don’t show guys faces in pics until I know were solid) will go out on another date. I will keep you guys posted about my new dating life. Check out my pics from my date! And I better hear about you going on a date soon too! Muah…my new book, “You Gotta Lose to Win: Breaking Up, No Making Up, and Moving On with Your Life!” will explain it all.

P.S . Always rememer that another man’s trash is another man’s treasure. Muah, love you for free!

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Jul 2 2012

Lil’ Scrappy Talks The Struggle of Love in New Video, No Love

Lil Scrappy released a new music video called “No love” featuring Tocarra (a singer from ATL, not the model). I love the video but most of all I love when a young, black, man express their emotions. the video is cute and Lil’ Scrappy looks handsome. He is on his independent grind and a Boss Chick like myself can respect it definitely!

Here are some highlights of the lyrics that stood out to me…

Confused flow, for real though
Love came through the front, went out the back door
Emotions are running, depression is coming
Can’t believe you love me, cause your feelings are funny

Chorus: I’m so tired of going up and down, round and round
I’m so over it, I’m breaking down
I’m bout to call it quits, I done had enough of it
My heart is so cold, I can’t find no love here

My heart on broken, confidence stolen
Mind going crazy, should I stay or keep going
She don’t love me, well I gotta embrace it
If I don’t love her, baby girl you gotta face it
The thang about love you can’t find it you need to trace it
If love was a test, you either fail or you ace it
Love me, for who I am,
If not, shit I don’t give a damn
You want the cars, house and designer things
I get it baby girl, you want the finer things
And I ain’t hatin on you, go and get it now
Matter fact, go and get it, make daddy proud

And lastly,

You wanna upgrade baby and that’s a fact
But you don’t get a nigga just like that
You don’t throw away what we had, just like that
You leave a real nigga shawty i bet you come right back

Now that was some deep ish. I just hope he is able to love someone else again after this heartache. Damn!

What are your thoughts on this new video????