Dear Diary,
Life is funny sometimes. You just never know who is in the background waiting for you and your dude to break up. I truly believe that people who just got out of relationships need time to grow and time to heal from the past relationships but if you are over it and over him, DO YOU!
I’m laughing because we always think a person had to be cheating with the next person if they get into a relationship right away after a break up but I am living proof that that is not true. Recently, I decided to end things with my fiance’, who I was with for 4 years. As soon as word broke out in my small circle about me being a single lady, a guy friend asked can he take me out. I knew dude for ever and wouldn’t normally go out so quick but I said, why not? And accepted his offer. I didn’t know what to call it. OMG! Is this a date? Is this chilling? Whatever it was, I knew I had to be cute.
I was ready!!!! Yes, ready to enjoy myself. I had no baggage left from my past relationship (when it’s over, it’s over) and was sure that the chapter with my ex was FINITO. Yes ladies, be sure that you don’t want the ex before you go on a date with the next.
Anyway, I looked cute; not too sexy and not too classy… Just hot! Needless to say, I had one of the most romantic dates ever. He was a pure gentlemen and I was very impressed. I never believed in a million years that I would be on a date with a man I knew my whole life but walla magic, here we were on a date, chilling, and enjoying each other’s company. It was a great feeling.
Now, I told you that to tell you this. Life is too short to not go on dates because you are too afraid to explore the world and hurt people feelings. When your relationship is over, you have the key to open any new door you would like to open. You just have to be ready to embrace a new world. That is why I started my new DATING GIRL Movement. It’s for the girls who dare to move on with their life and is super-happy about their new or old freedom. Freedom could be from your ex, freedom could be the pass to explore a new world, freedom could be anything you make it as long as you are happy.
I don’t want my ladies rebounding but hey, can’t get mad if another dude catch the steal. When you are a hot commodity, men are going to come and try to get you as soon as they find out you no longer have a owner and I love it. I love a man who is bold and who respected my relationship enough to wait. There are not many men like that out there…the best part of my date was that he didn’t talk about sex or try to get in my drawers. Ugh, I hate when men do that. You don’t ever have to feen for the panties, we know if and when were going to give them up.
Needless to say, me and my Mystery Man (I don’t show guys faces in pics until I know were solid) will go out on another date. I will keep you guys posted about my new dating life. Check out my pics from my date! And I better hear about you going on a date soon too! Muah…my new book, “You Gotta Lose to Win: Breaking Up, No Making Up, and Moving On with Your Life!” will explain it all.
P.S . Always rememer that another man’s trash is another man’s treasure. Muah, love you for free!
I sure agree! Life is too short not to be lived fully!
Hell yes!
Thank you so much. I needed that. BTW: I’m happy for you.
Thank u doll!
Blog about moving on when kids are involved
Ok def!
Yes! Please do this one, bc these men think just bc we’re BM they can keep coming back after playing the field!
Damn…I needed this more than you could ever know. I’ve never been a “dater”. I tend to deal with too much foolishness because I don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. Thanks for the push into the dating world. I deserve it. Got out of a 12 year marriage and I’m settling for some B.S. Wish you the best!
Girl, do you! Theres too many men out here to settle. F*ck feelings!
I totally agree. I bn n dat same situation myself after being n a relationship for 13 yrs. And wen I tell u dat date wz da best decision I made. I’ve bn wit my new dude 4yrs and I must say I’m completely happy and in love…And its a wonderful feeling. Good Luck
Great story, all the best!
I Love and a proud member of the #DatingGirl Movement…. Your Date got you smiling
Yes he was cool. I cant wait to go on more dates!
broke up with my ex in oct. and started dating in jan. at first ive had some disappointments but i feel the knowledge of why my last relationship didn’t last has truly helped me decipher thru the bs and truly know what i want.
Your right
Glad you’re enjoying your journey. We only live once!
Good luck, Maybe I will one day get back out there and see what can happen
Girl, those tats and that shamballah bracelets are little hints of swag! Go in and let have! #yaaaaaaaassssssssssssss
Tionna, this article is great and inspiring! I, like you, am a virgo (yay) and I am in a relationship with someone (he’s a leo) that I really love, but at times I think that there’s too much of a struggle. I love my boyfriend as a person, he’s funny, sweet, and understanding but when it comes to financial stability he’s just not solid and that’s where the situation gets shaky. Reading your blog let’s me know that maybe I need to step aside and give the relationship a break because things are getting really stressful and strained. I realized that I put so much energy into helping my boyfriend that I take away a lot of time from helping myself and that’s a problem. With that said, thanks for the insightful post, it is really eye opening.
Be blessed!
I really enjoy your straight forward, no holds barred, way of expressing yourself! I gues this is something I needed to hear/read today.
Thank you for sharing!!! 
Blessings ~
Sorry to hear about your break up but you are doing BIG things. You are the perfect example that if you put you mind on something you want to do…the sky’s the limit. Wishing you the best in this next chapter in your life
This is just what I needed to read today, I am from London, UK and only heard about your books, blog etc today. After wasting months on a user who wanted me to inflate his ego, I’m starting to get smart and f*ck feelings, I’m 23 and I think I had a lucky escape! The day I decided for the final time that this moron was not worth another thought, I was secure enough and happy enough to give another guy a chance, one who’s been in the background for some time – this other guy has prospects, respect, his own life sorted out and instead of aiming low and settling for a guy just cos I have feelings for him – I’m gonna use my head more and my heart less, aim higher and have fun
loving your blog girl
What about moving on with someone who has just gotten out of a relationship I feel like I’m always the rebound and I don’t want to be! Help a girl out
My new book will be all about that.