Dear Diary,

*I don’t know Pilar, Deion, or Tracey so this blog entry is based on assumption and not fact!

Today was a crazy day on Twitter. Hell, when is there ever not a crazy day on Twitter? People are for sure losing their mind online and the main people who are bugging out is these damn celebrities. Well, these semi celebrities.

Football Hall of Famer, Deion Sanders, posted tweets along with pictures stating that his estranged ex–wife Pilar Sanders (who I think he still isn’t legally divorced from), had attacked him and that he was pressing charges and sending her ass to jail. When I heard this, all I could think was damn, another pretty girl bites the dust.

What is the dust?

Well the dust is when a girl and her man breaks up and he moves on a little faster than she expected. We women hate to admit this to men but we don’t like for them to move on before we do. Hey, I think that is people in general. We want to seem like the ones who are popping and who moved on with our lives first.

Everyone looks at Pilar as such a sex symbol and expected for her to move on with her life rather quickly but that is not the case in this situation. Pilar isn’t handling the divorce very well because she was tricked into the divorce. She was the one going around telling the media that she was going to file for divorce first; Deion must have found out and convinced her to stay only to REALLY file for divorce a little bit later. That action threw Pilar for a loop and made her feel very crazy.

Now the dust is the female’s ego. Whether you are cute or not, everyone woman has a ego and they don’t want their feelings to be played with no matter what. Pilar knew that Deion was getting it popping with Babyface’s ex-wife, Tracey. She even placed that she wanted Tracey to take the stand in their divorce trial as one of Deion’s mistresses. Now Pilar is no saint herself; I heard rumors that she was getting it on and popping with a rapper/mogul while she was still married (but you didn’t hear that from me) but she never got sloppy and let her ish hang all out. Note: A lady never gets sloppy. She cleans up her mess after she is done (literally).

What drove Pilar over the edge is the fact that now Deion (once again one step ahead of her) has decided to go public with his affections for Tracey. Now I don’t know if Tracey and Deion was getting it on and popping while he was with Pilar but knowing what I know about men, my guess would be yes. I say this because Tracey shouldn’t be so happy to go on the red carpet with a man who is still legally married. Like I tell all my male friends who are separated who want me to hook them up with my single friends: “Separated is still married; call me when you get a divorce.” Pilar is shocked and appalled that Deion would bring her out in public. She felt like it was a smack in her face and it really hurt her ego and that is why she reacted the way she has did (which is with violence).

Granted Tracey is not as pretty as Pilar, but she has one thing Pilar doesn’t have and that is work ethic a.k.a a CAREER. Tracey is what we call a Boss Chick. She has been making moves on her own since for ever. Pilar claims that Deion never allowed her to work so I guess it comes in deep shock to her that he is now open like a token for a chick who works hard and has her own “name”. I believe Pilar misunderstood what Deion was saying. He claimed he didn’t want a reality show chick who hosted club parties as his wife. Tracey has not yet to appear on a janky ass reality show or host a club party and I don’t believe she would in the future.

Pilar has to do what I am telling women to do in my next book and that is “take your L like a real chick.” You can beat love into a man who doesn’t wants to be with you. I know this because back in 2005, me and the “love of my life” broke up and he moved on and wifed some Spanish chick in the Bronx up. I broke into his Sprint PCS phone and saw all the messages he wrote to her and I threw up in my mouth. He was calling her ass ‘princess’ and shit. Hell, he ain’t never call me a princess, LOL.

One night I called his phone to speak to him about how I was feeling and he happily said, “you broke up with me and I decided to move on. So take it for what it is.” Me being a crazy ass 21-year-old, Brooklyn chick, I decided to put on my green Juicy sweatsuit and walk over his house to start an argument. Needless to say he dissed me and closed the door in my face. I was very embarrassed because the whole ‘hood was outside, so my dumb ass decides to punch in his door. After I punched in the door, I fall on a sheet of ice that was on his stoop and my whole ass falls out of the sweatpants. Yes, I forgot to put panties on. SMH.

Needless to say, I moved on after that situation and realized that no dude was worth me going that hard for. He didn’t want me back and he made that very clear (Crystal). He moved on and didn’t owe me anything. I think as women we believe that men belong to us even after we break up but really that is not the case. When it’s over, it’s over. Pilar should never had fought him with her hand, fight him with his pocket. Deion showing up on the red carpet with Tracey would have been the proof Pilar needed to show the court that he was unfaithful during their marriage and that would have helped her get more money in her divorce settlement. Instead she played herself like a bird and put him a position of power to now make her look mentally unstable and like a bad parent (if she did do the things he accused her of doing in front of their children).

See this is the advantage the WG (white girl) would always have over us BG (black girls) and that is we fight with our hearts and not our minds. Now her pretty ass and her ego is going to the big house. My only advice to Pilar now is…

Don’t Drop the Soap!

Leave a comment about this Deion/Pilar/Tracey mess and definitely share with your peoples who can’t get over their exes!