Mar 26 2013

When a Man Seeks to Embarrass & Destroy: The “Pending” Divorce of Porsha Stewart

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I was very shocked to hear that the husband of Porsha Stewart (the newbie on Real Housewives of Atlanta) reportedly filed for divorce against her. Huh, the nerve of this downlow brother.

Money or no money, Kordell Stewart, is not a prize to anyone. He is extremely corny; he makes Nick Cannon look like the stud muffin of the year. Atlanta is all about living the high style life so I’m not going to judge Porsha for marrying such a dweeb… Maybe she fell victim to the love of a man with money who wanted a young, naive, woman who would come and help his “image”. I don’t know them so I can’t judge; all I do know is marriage these days for public figures is a joke and someone has to speak up about it.

I only watched a few episodes of Real Housewives of Atlanta this season but from the episodes I saw Porsha seemed to be obedient to her husband and allowed him to play the man role… Well atleast that’s how it looked on tv. I remember seeing a promo for an episode where Nene Leakes (Porsha’s fellow housewife who had admittedly been in an abusive relationship in her past) said in her interview scene that Kordell was controlling.

A man who feel the need to control a G.A.W (Grown Ass Woman) obviously has a problem. Homegirl even seemed too scared to go to a female strip club. Gah, where they do that at? (In my most ghettoist voice ever, lol). Maybe Kordell wasn’t whipping her ass but there was definitely something he was leveraging against her in his pursuit of control… I can tell you guys what it was… It was the money and the name.

I can tell that Porsha loves the power it brings to be Kordell Stewart’s wife especially in the city of Atlanta. She drives a benz around town and pull up to a mansion. She can shop, socialize, and try to get her singing career off the ground without worrying about her bills. She loved the fact that her husband could drop money on her without a problem and she loved to rub her marital status in (her other co-star) Kenya Moore’s face. It was like waaaam bish, I’m married to a baller and you’re not… Oh but look at her ass now.

My assumption is Porsha started to rebel against the tight regime of Kordell Stewart. Think about it, she’s getting her own money now (episode fees go up as you go along in Reality TV-land) and she is now famous from her own right. So now she doesn’t have to listen to every single thing her rich husband has to say. Kordell, in straight Deion Sanders fashion, decided that he’s not going to deal with it… So he embarrasses her by announcing he’s divorcing her and has a nerve to put out a statement talking about “it’s difficult.”

Duh Kordell, of course it’s difficult but whats worse is you could have kept it cute and gracefully bowed out but nooooo, instead you decided to make a public stinct and now she is embarrassed. All that bragging and all that insta-balling she participated in is now coming to an end and with no children between them and a marriage of two years or less, she most likely going to get a alimony check and a get-out-the-mansion-by June demand.

See this is why it is good to be an independent woman because when a man with money seek to destroy you, he will win if you don’t have much to fall back on and now she may be forced to kiss the Bravo producers’ ass so that she can at least guarantee herself another season which may help her land herself on her feet or at least another baller… Uugh, I am just happy I will never have to go through this because I will always work to get mine.

We’ll see how this all pan out. All I know is Kordell Stewart really has these heauxs laughing at her, NATIONALLY. I don’t know if he’s doing this as a publicity stunt to scare her or not but whatever it is… She needs to be done with him indefinitely, take her L gracefully, and move on while her baby heads are still perky.

What are your thoughts about this “divorce”!? Is it bullcrap or is it really real? Should Porsha try to save face and be quiet?

Nov 21 2012

How to Be Single & Happy on Thanksgiving! The Dos & Donts!!!

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Dear Diary,

This is the first Thanksgiving that I am single since about 2006. I am not really a Thanksgiving person so being single on Thanksgiving doesn’t bother me in the least bit. Hey, I spent Hurricane Sandy alone… If I can do that, I can do anything! LOL.

Well, this year I’ve had some offers to attend Thanksgiving dinner (including one from my ex) but I decided that I will get some well needed rest like I did for the past few thanksgivings.

So, you are single and you are feeling lonely. Here is my Dos and Donts so you can have a great holiday without the pressure of feeling like a loser…

#1 Do: Thank God for making it to see another Thanksgiving. Hey, there are many people in the world that didn’t live to see this day so you better praise him.

#1 Dont: Don’t show up at your ex or current boo house uninvited. It makes you look like a loser and you are just punnishing yourself no matter how fly you look once you get there.

#2 Do: Spend time with your family because this is the time of year where family matters most. Consider yourself lucky that you have a family. Be good to your peoples!

#2 Dont: Don’t go over any of your EXES house no matter how close you are to them or their family. I don’t care if you were invited. Stay your ass home! An ex is an ex for a reason and you don’t need to cloud your judgment or your life with bullcrap. Dinners will just make you feel funny and will lead your ex on. He or she may start to feel like you want them back! Spending Thanksgiving with exes just make things even more confusing.

#3 Do: Do understand that if you are talking to a dude and he hasn’t invited you over for Thanksgiving or attempt to spend Thanksgiving with you or your family that he may not be feeling you like that or have made other plans.

#3 Dont: Don’t take it personal when you’re not invited. It’s cool! Knowing is beautiful and half the battle! Also, don’t make no excuse for why you are not spending the holiday with them. If someone ask, just straight up say, “He didn’t invite me.”

#4 Do: Hit your family and friends and say Happy Thanksgiving or Happy Holidays… Once again your peoples are everything.

#4 Dont: Don’t you dare hit no dude up on Thanksgiving day or the night before wishing him a happy holiday or to see what he is doing. No girly, you are too cool for school and too busy for that! And even if you are not too busy for that- you better pretend you are. No need to look desperate or put yourself out there. Let him hit you up first and if he doesn’t, don’t sweat it!

#5 Do: If you get too bored, turn off your phone and get some nice sleep or watch some movies on Netflix that you always wanted to see. Take time for yourself because only you can avoid being unhappily single on Thanksgiving. You can also make dinner for a homeless family or serve food at a homeless shelter. There are so many different ways to feel appreciated on this holiday.

#5 Dont: Don’t allow his ass to come over no 9pm after all the food is cold (unless he had to work). You are no second choice and you can’t allow that kind of fuckery into your life! 9pm is too late… Sorry, don’t even answer your phone!

I hope these tips help you. Have a great holiday guys and eat a lot and go to the gym on Friday and work it off hunny!!!

Love you for free!!!

Tionna

Sep 1 2012

Dating 101: Do You Really Know How to Date? Are You the Dating or Relationship Kind?

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In today’s microwave society, everything move so fast. We are living in a time where women are getting pregnant by dudes they only been “talking” to for less than 90 days. Its like no one is getting to know each other before they jump in and start relationships.

Wellllllll….

Its a small portion of women in the world who still believe in DATING. Yes, I know that word may be unfamiliar to most but it still exists.

Dating: the act of going on dates aka nothing serious aka I may like you but I still want to try other merchandise before I buy aka you not my man, son!

When I talk about dating on Twitter, many men on there scold me for telling women that they should date at least 3 men and so on. They believe in the social construct that a female dating 3 men is a whore. I often ask them what is wrong with a woman having options. A woman can date 3 men and not have sexual relations with all 3 men. Please, I know women who have dated multiple men and didn’t have sex with any of them. And even if she has sex with all 3 (as per the movie “She’s Gotta Have It); who are we to judge?

It’s 2012 and women are liberated therefore we are not at liberty to judge a woman’s sexual activity. It is what it is.

A #DatingGirl is a smart girl!!! These days we get so caught up in keeping people that we dont see earlier on the signs that could have saved us a heartache or STD or 2. Sh*t is definitely real and its time to really get to know people before you get all caught up in the matrix. Dating helps you get to know a person- trust me!

When dating you must be honest with all parties involved. Lets say you met a popping guy. You’re digging him, he’s digging you but you know that you are in no way, shape, or form ready for a serious thang… You need to tell him immediately. In the beginning most men are cool with it because they just want to bone too but as time goes along, things can could get tricky. All of a sudden the plan starts to deviate.

When dating you have to allow for your action to match what you are telling homie. If you say you guys are just dating; you can’t be around him everyday. You are giving off the girlfriend vibe when you are around him everyday. When dating you can’t introduce him to major people in your life like your parents or child unless you are at the end of the dating stage and want to see what they think before you take the big plunge and even then you introduce him as your friend or hun never as your man. You can’t express over emotion!!! The word love should never, ever, ever be used at this stage even if he says it first.

Now all of this can go really, really, really wrong if any party start to have real crazy feelings for the other party and the other person dont feel the same way. Now this has happened to me… I was in a fuc*ship (a union of just f*cking aka f*ck buddies) with a guy I was dealing with and we started out on some let’s f*ck and chill ish then all of a sudden one day he caught feelings for me. At the time I had my own thing going on so I didn’t react the way he wanted to. Needless to say, all of a sudden I realized I had feelings for him; like real feelings for him (this was like almost a year after he caught little feelings for me).

In my defense, these feelings emerged after seeing him almost everyday (not on purpose) and dealing with him for a year and a half… Now, I knew I couldn’t make him my man so I decided to take my L and stop dealing with the whole situation. That is one of the things that can go wrong when you are “dating” someone.

Another issue can be he’s tired of playing games and he want you exclusive and you my friend are not ready to COMMIT (that has also happened to me). Lets say you are dating this great guy but you still not ready to commit; you take a huge risk by telling him you’re not ready. Dating is a betting game… You may lose if you gamble but the best dater is the one not afraid to gamble! Some people are ruthless daters, they risk losing great people everyday because they are stuck in their convictions of not being ready to settle down! But hey, you gotta lose to win!

Then you have the datingship that looks and smell like a relationship. You only date them, you’re only dealing with them sexually, you have a great friendship and courtship- just no title. You guys even have each other pics up on Instagram (ie me and my boo). This is more of the exclusive dating. People ask if you like the person and with them all of the time, why not say you are in a relationship???? Well sometimes titles mess up a great thing! I truly believe that now. I am not interested in the pressure that the word relationship brings. I’m not interested in falling in love at this time. I just want to have fun and enjoy the person I am dealing with.

This method of dating would confuse most but it works for those who just got out of a relationship or for those who are afraid to be hurt again. Its just a good feeling to know that you are around someone because you want to and not because a title of a relationship tells you you have to!!!

People ask me all of time, How long are you supposed to date before you make it official? Well that answers depend on the person. I know people who have dated for 2 weeks and I know people who have dated 2 years. Its all up to you. Dating is not about the time so much as it is about the readiness of both parties.

My new philosophy is DATE UNTIL YOU GET MARRIED! Skip the “boyfriend” stage and date, date, date until you get married. Marriage is for the settling down stage not boyfriend/girlfriendship. Hello, thats the point of getting married.

If you’re not a serial dater thats cool, you can date one person at a time and get rid of ‘em when you are ready to and move on to the next. Great thing about dating, there are no rules unless you and the person you are dating put some in place. The main rule some say is you can date other people just dont let me see it!!! Whatever the rules may be, just make sure they are clear to both parties.

Now after reading this post, ask yourself are you made to date or are you made to be in a EXCLUSIVE relationship. Relationships are somewhat binding. So a real dater can be non-exclusive where as a relationship is exclusive. It’s all up to you. If you know you can’t take the thought of a dude you are feeling to be with another person then don’t fool yourself, dating isn’t for you but if you know that it aint no fun unless we all get some (lol) then you are ready. Whatever it is, don’t fool yourself!

Please comment and share. Thank you!

P.S. when I placed dating in google images, the first few pages just show white people. Are they trying to say black women don’t date. Hmmmm, maybe in another post!

Aug 19 2012

Love: Can You Be Happy with One Person in Today’s Society?

Dear Diary,

My parents have been married for 28 years and often times, I sit and wonder how the hell do they do it. Hell, my parents have spent more than 10, 220 days of their lives being married to each other. Geesh, that is a long ass time. I ask my moms from time to time, does she ever get bored of the sex? Or get sick of being with my father? And she always says the same thing, “you will never get tired of being with the person who is the one for you.” Damn that sounds good but shit now a days what is the one.

The number one makes me think!!! One means being with a person in hopes that they will satisfy your needs mentally, physically, emotionally, and financially. Man, sounds like a lot of pressure for that one. So I ask myself, wouldn’t life be easier if we were allowed to have two people to come in and split the responsibilities of making one happier. Man, I’m a hustla so I always think of practical solutions that can make things move more swift.

Everytime my mother try to give me advice about men and finding the one i stop her because she hasn’t been single since Marvin Gaye was alive. Women roles have changed and men DEFINITELY have changed. Moms is from a time where men took over the households and brought home the bacon. She always tell my sisters and I stories about the good old days and how if you smoked, a dude brought over the cigarettes; if you drink, dude brought over the bottle; and if you eat, the dude brought over the food; no ifs ands or buts about it.

Things have certantly changed, now adays dudes come over empty handed and expect you to suck them off like they are King Dingaling or something (save the suck ladies). They don’t even ask you if you need something before they come thru, SMH. Granted, women standards have changed over the years but many dudes haven’t learned the fundamentals of being a man which makes it hard for single women out here to find one dude who can satisfy their every need.

The world is crazy. It’s like if you meet a guy who has good sex, he doesn’t have a job and if you meet a guy with a job, he doesn’t have a car and if you meet a dude with a job and a car, he lives at home with his mama. It’s like how can you find a whole person to make you happy as a whole person when there are not many whole people out here. There are just a bunch of people out here trying to find themselves. And to those people trying to find themselves, keep doing you and keep others out your mix. You can’t be anyone’s #1 until you have everything together for yourself which should be your #1 priority.

I think you can find one person to satisfy your needs if you dont want or need much but if you live an advanced life, there is no way one person can satisfy you. The more complex your life is, the harder it is to be with one person who you feel can make you happy. I know that people with advanced lives are hard to please and expect so much out of people that we end up being disappointed but hey that is life.

I just think it is great to date multiple people until you find someone who fulfils at least 80% of your needs. Hey, Rome wasn’t built in a day. The person who fulfils that much percent in today’s society is a keeper because it is really hard. To find out what percent of your needs your lover have on lock, write down 10 of the ultimate needs you need to have in your love life. Now check off every need your “one” lover provide and the percentage will be clear. If you check off 3/10, your man only fulfil 30% of your needs (which is a fail); if you check off 8/10, then boom pow pow, he or she is a keeper.

The more advance of a person you are, the more needs you have which means the less likely a mere mortal is able to keep up with the checklist (not the one Chilli had).

I guess my feelings about being with one person will change ultimately when I meet the right person but I wont waste time thinking about it. Life is too short to be worrying about the “one” when you can have two or three in your life that you can rotate to your convenience. Yup, the funny man, the money man, the lover man, the sex man, etc.

Dating one person is hard and it takes a lot of patience and both parties must be down with the program in order for it to work. Hell, a lot of people think they’re with people when in all actuality, they are BY THEMSELVES. You won’t catch me out there!!! I say stop looking for the one and just do you!!! It will make you a lot happier in the end of the day but I know seeing people like my parents make you want the one infinite love…

Awww

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Jul 29 2012

Dating: Finding Someone New After a Long Term Relationship!

Dear Diary,

Life is funny sometimes. You just never know who is in the background waiting for you and your dude to break up. I truly believe that people who just got out of relationships need time to grow and time to heal from the past relationships but if you are over it and over him, DO YOU!

I’m laughing because we always think a person had to be cheating with the next person if they get into a relationship right away after a break up but I am living proof that that is not true. Recently, I decided to end things with my fiance’, who I was with for 4 years. As soon as word broke out in my small circle about me being a single lady, a guy friend asked can he take me out. I knew dude for ever and wouldn’t normally go out so quick but I said, why not? And accepted his offer. I didn’t know what to call it. OMG! Is this a date? Is this chilling? Whatever it was, I knew I had to be cute.

I was ready!!!! Yes, ready to enjoy myself. I had no baggage left from my past relationship (when it’s over, it’s over) and was sure that the chapter with my ex was FINITO. Yes ladies, be sure that you don’t want the ex before you go on a date with the next.

Anyway, I looked cute; not too sexy and not too classy… Just hot! Needless to say, I had one of the most romantic dates ever. He was a pure gentlemen and I was very impressed. I never believed in a million years that I would be on a date with a man I knew my whole life but walla magic, here we were on a date, chilling, and enjoying each other’s company. It was a great feeling.

Now, I told you that to tell you this. Life is too short to not go on dates because you are too afraid to explore the world and hurt people feelings. When your relationship is over, you have the key to open any new door you would like to open. You just have to be ready to embrace a new world. That is why I started my new DATING GIRL Movement. It’s for the girls who dare to move on with their life and is super-happy about their new or old freedom. Freedom could be from your ex, freedom could be the pass to explore a new world, freedom could be anything you make it as long as you are happy.

I don’t want my ladies rebounding but hey, can’t get mad if another dude catch the steal. When you are a hot commodity, men are going to come and try to get you as soon as they find out you no longer have a owner and I love it. I love a man who is bold and who respected my relationship enough to wait. There are not many men like that out there…the best part of my date was that he didn’t talk about sex or try to get in my drawers. Ugh, I hate when men do that. You don’t ever have to feen for the panties, we know if and when were going to give them up.

Needless to say, me and my Mystery Man (I don’t show guys faces in pics until I know were solid) will go out on another date. I will keep you guys posted about my new dating life. Check out my pics from my date! And I better hear about you going on a date soon too! Muah…my new book, “You Gotta Lose to Win: Breaking Up, No Making Up, and Moving On with Your Life!” will explain it all.

P.S . Always rememer that another man’s trash is another man’s treasure. Muah, love you for free!

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Jul 2 2012

Lil’ Scrappy Talks The Struggle of Love in New Video, No Love

Lil Scrappy released a new music video called “No love” featuring Tocarra (a singer from ATL, not the model). I love the video but most of all I love when a young, black, man express their emotions. the video is cute and Lil’ Scrappy looks handsome. He is on his independent grind and a Boss Chick like myself can respect it definitely!

Here are some highlights of the lyrics that stood out to me…

Confused flow, for real though
Love came through the front, went out the back door
Emotions are running, depression is coming
Can’t believe you love me, cause your feelings are funny

Chorus: I’m so tired of going up and down, round and round
I’m so over it, I’m breaking down
I’m bout to call it quits, I done had enough of it
My heart is so cold, I can’t find no love here

My heart on broken, confidence stolen
Mind going crazy, should I stay or keep going
She don’t love me, well I gotta embrace it
If I don’t love her, baby girl you gotta face it
The thang about love you can’t find it you need to trace it
If love was a test, you either fail or you ace it
Love me, for who I am,
If not, shit I don’t give a damn
You want the cars, house and designer things
I get it baby girl, you want the finer things
And I ain’t hatin on you, go and get it now
Matter fact, go and get it, make daddy proud

And lastly,

You wanna upgrade baby and that’s a fact
But you don’t get a nigga just like that
You don’t throw away what we had, just like that
You leave a real nigga shawty i bet you come right back

Now that was some deep ish. I just hope he is able to love someone else again after this heartache. Damn!

What are your thoughts on this new video????

Jul 1 2012

Lust: Why Rosci and Eddie Murphy Disgust Me?

Dear Diary,

I didn’t want to write this post but I wouldnt’t be me if I didn’t. My people over at Global Grind released a picture collage of Rosci Diaz (of 106 and Park) and the legendary actor/comedian Eddie Murphy on the red carpet of the BET Awards dinner and I got disgusted.

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Rosci has been in the press over the past a lot when it came down to men she frequented with such as Lisa Raye’s ex husband, singer Raphael Saadiq, and now Eddie Murphy. I am a bit of a feminist and all down with women exploring their sexuality so I am not judging her sexual past or activity but Bringing Eddie Murphy on the red carpet and being seen half naked on the beach with him is where she has crossed the line.

Eddie Murphy is a bit icky. He has been caught in cars with transgender prostitutes and also abandoned Mel B. (formerly of the Spice Girls) once she got pregnant and decided to keep the baby many years back. It took him a few years to even acknowlege the baby. I understand he has a lot of money and power but where do we as women draw the line?

You can’t tell me that Rosci is just naturally attracted to Eddie. I can’t and won’t believe that or indulge in that kind of fuckery. She is in it for the dough and he is in it for the pleasure of freaking off just another “exotic” looking young chick who has a little fame. Hell since when did Eddie Murphy started going to the negro awards?

Now I’m not knocking Rosci, get your money Baby girl… But she should have some kind of standards for herself. There are just some mofos no one should know you are dealing with, sorry! If she were going to have sex with Eddie or even deal with him in general, she should have kept that as her little secret. That could have been her little sugar daddy that no one knew about but when you put it out there for the world to see, youre giving off the impression that you are serious about the guy and I can’t respect her if she’s taking this debacle seriously.

We women must remember to keep things on the low low when it’s just “business” or when it’s just cocksation and not give light to those who may not be in our life in a few months from now. She must also think about her career in entertainment as a female.

Females in entertainment already receive a bad rap. Many view industry girls as professionals who are really groupies on the low. Yeah I never saw so many Publicists and Stylists in my life. I just charge it to the game. It’s hard to get respect out here and he decides to be boo love at the BET Awards where her peers are and former bosses (because she got the boot a few months ago). Now if it was the Tonys or something that would have been a different story (networking).

Rosci can’t make irresponsible decisions such as letting the cat come out of the bag about her love life then get mad when rappers refer to her as a hoe or when they disrespect her by saying they will blow up how many dudes she really let dick her down in the industry.

All I can say is good luck Rosci. I hope whatever role or status you are trying to get in LA by dealing with Eddie will turn out to be fruitful for you in the future.

I wish these chicks would put in work without putting out but I guess this is the way of life in today’s society.

Damn!

Jun 19 2012

Love: Lil’ Scrappy & Diamond: The Dynamics of Being Young, Popular, and In Love

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-Collage of Scrappy and Diamond when it was all good!

If you watched Love & Hip Hop ATL on VH1 Monday night, you were in for a real treat. Ooh it was rachet but in a good way. I noticed on their debut episode, they mentioned Atlanta rapper Diamond (Lil’ Scrappy’s ex fiance’ and former member of the Hip Hop group, Crime Mobb) quite often. Hearing her name made me think about
All the cute little pictures I used to see with her and Scrappy. Needless to say I loved them together.

I loved Diamond and Scrappy together because they were both young, hood, in the business and they seemed to have a true love for each other. It seemed like there was love and happiness until I saw a picture of her with Soulja Boy all booed up. The picture of Diamond and Soulja Boy really confused the hell out of me. I just think they were one odd couple. I guess that was a “bag him so I can get some of that cash” ordeal. Either way something wasn’t right.

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-Diamond and Soulja Boy

No matter how many women throw the panties at you, seeing the love of your life and the woman you planned on marrying with Soulja Boy will make any man sick to their stomach especially if you are G’d up from the feet up like Scrappy is. Needless to say homeboy was hurt and his moms, Mama Dee, came out on the radio and hammered Diamond’s ass.

Scrappy was then seen around town with VH1′s own Shay aka Buckeey from Flavor of Love. That too was also another odd couple. Now a year later, here is this show Love & Hip Hop with Scrappy, Mama Dee, and Scrappy’s baby mother Erica, who is taking Scrappy leaving her for Diamond and coming back to her once Diamond left him all too well. Hey, I guess she wanted to be a star so I guess they arranged an oh “let’s just pretend we are an item so I can get my own check” debacle. Either way, I’m not mad at them.
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-Scrappy with Buckeey

Erica asked Scrappy right away would he be with her if Diamond didn’t go off with Soulja Boy. I respected him because he straight up admitted that he didn’t know the answer to that question.

At that very moment, a love coach like myself saw that that that Soulja Boy fiasco still made him feel funny and that he was still in love with Diamond. More proof that he was still feeling her was when Mama Dee told Erica that Scrappy took Diamond back in for a month after the Soulja Boy thing and he told his mother that she basically should be happy if he was happy. I know Mama Dee was fuming when he told her that but these mothers must learn that they can’t pick and choose their children mates. You have to let them do them and hope and pray that you raised them right enough to make a good decision. We will go in more about this on my next post about mamas and their sons.

Anyway, I started to wonder what made Scrappy and Diamond break up in the first place and my bet is money. Money is a very touchy subject when you and your mate are both self-employed. Sometimes ish get real tricky, especially if you dont pace yourself. Diamond likes money, hell what girl doesn’t? There were rumors that she was suffering from severe financial troubles (been there) which included the repo and foreclosure man (never been there) and maybe she felt she needed a man who can take care of her. It seems as if Scrappy took care of Diamond as much as he could and maybe he couldn’t give anymore.

With money strains come more relationship pains…

When your money is funny all of a sudden, everything in your relationship begin to go down the mother effing hill. Remember I don’t know these two personally (I met Diamond twice) so everything I am talking about is straight off speculation. I doubt they broke up over groupie love!!!

Sometimes when you are both young and is in an industry as crazy as the entertainment industry, the pressures can mess up a relationship for real. It’s hard being around women who are married to men who buy them everything and get them every plastic surgery in America and you are sitting there, people are asking you for your autograph just like homegirl but you can’t afford what she has. Then you go home comparing your man with her man and well you know the rest. The best thing you have to do in that situation is just focus on your relationship; what she eat don’t make you sh*t. You can’t worry about what the next chick’s man bought her or done for her, you just got to do you. The pressure to be fly is crazy but you gotta know what is real and hopefully that is your love.

I also think Mama Dee had a little bit to do with them breaking up too but I think that there is also more to the story.

Overall, he is still in love with Diamond. I believe that they will get back with each other especially after they both grow up and get their bread right. If they were smart they will have a sweet ending on the show and turn this 15 minutes of reality show fame until a full fledge business of getting money. We shall see how it works out. My bet is they will be back an item and there wont be anything anyone would be able to do. They are meant for each other and will go down as one of the best couples in the hip hop… Well at least in ATL.

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-Diamond with Scrappy and Erica’s Daughter

Hey any man who throws a birthday party for his daughter with a chick who isn’t the mother is definitely open. I say they must get back if Lil’ Scrappy ever want to be happy!

What are your thoughts??? Do you want to see Scrappy and Diamond back together? Yay or Nay? Do you think they will get back together?

May 30 2012

Lust: Is Rihanna a Hoe or a Young Girl Misunderstood?

Dear Diary,

Before I start this post I would like to give Rihanna’s biggest Twitter fan a shout out. Heyyyyyyy MolestMeRihanna. Her eyes is probably going to pop out of her head when she sees this on my timeline.

Anyway, there has been a lot of chatter on twitter lately about Pop sensation Rihanna and her sexual activities. It seems as if everyone has been taking a dig at her from her mad ex Chris Brown to newcomer rapper Meek Mill to cornball rapper Drake. I don’t know if they are talking about her or not but if they are here is my take on Rihanna and her pum pum.

Rihanna is a beautiful, rich girl, who has had her share of lovers in her young life. She has tried the being in love thing and that apparently didn’t work with both Chris Brown and Matt Kemp. Now she is single and she has the right to mingle and do whatever and whomever she choses. When I write about people I am older than, I try to think about what the hell was I doing at their age.

I have to say, 21-23, was the most dicked-down years that I have ever had in my life. I had just broke it off with my first boyfriend aka first fiance’ who I was with FAITHFULLY since the tender of age of 15 and was straight out of control. I was dealing with dudes that I would never had dealt with if I wasn’t rebelling against myself and my own thoughts. In those years I dealt with a skinny thug dude (it was just sexual), a broke young dude (it was just mental), and a few other dudes who I don’t care to describe in this entry. I messed with a Taurus who was a little bit older than me but he was a psycho who couldn’t cum (yes you read this right) no matter what you did to him. He was a real weirdo who only ejaculated three times in his whole life (hell, that’s what he told me and I believed him- that’s a whole other story).

Finally, in my last months of “being free,” I begin to mess with a dude who I had a crush on since before I had a training bra. I thought he was the one and that it was fate how one night I was describing him to a dude I was networking with and come to find out he was his neighbor and he kind of hooked us up. Man, cold world! We women have to learn the difference between fate and a coincidence. Most of the times, we think we encounter someone on some deep shit and it be the total opposite. I learned a valuable lesson with that dude.

Anyway, me and “the one” ended up not messing with each other after we had a big argument over something that I had supposedly said to his homie (who was mad he wasn’t getting this young, hot cake). I believed that was an excuse because he was much older than me and a bum on a blow up bed. He was a little jealous of my upcoming success and didn’t want a woman like me who was out there getting her name up and rocking Gucci every time she went to his house (hey, I was young).

He wanted someone that he made and that wanted him more than he wanted her. I’ll never forget when I introduced my older lady friend to him, he acted like he wanted to cum on himself (well at least he knew how unlike some people I knew- haha). He was a crazy ass Gemini man who I just didn’t mesh well with. That is the story of my life with me and most men. I get a long with them so good as friends but many men can’t deal with me and I can’t deal with many men; maybe that is why I love my Cassy Poo so much.

After me and homeboy stopped talking, I decided to become celibate because all the men I was either talking to or screwing was a freaking nightmare. They were just unstable creatures. I was doing whatever I wanted to do sexually before I decided to hold on to them drawers but I guess I got tired of the “playgirl” life, so I decided to be by myself.

Within 7 months of bitter celibacy, I met and fell in love with Cas, who I am still with now (almost 4 years later). I was 24-years-old when we made it official which is very young to be settling down now that I look back. So back to Rihanna, she is doing what most young women do and that is testing the waters and seeing what she like and what she doesn’t like. She is not married and does not have any children so she is free to do whatever the hell she wants to do.

The problem with men is that they can’t handle when a lady plays the same game they play. We may can’t play the exact way because we have a vagina and we can get pregnant but you know what I mean. Yes, contrary to what some men may believe, some women can have sex without getting crazy attached and can move on when his di*k is no longer fun or needed like nothing happened. Who are we to judge these type of women? Well, I know I can’t because at one point of my life I was that type of woman. Women are starting to understand what men have known for ever and that sex is just sex. It really isn’t that serious especially if it’s safe and consensual.

These days people place too many social constructs on women who are sexually free and who do whatever the hell they want to do. Yes, we are liberated now and we LOVE sex just as much as men do. The time has changed when women felt bad about giving in to their sexual desires and being scared that he is going to blow up the fact that she gave him some coochie. I could care less who tell who they had sex with me before. Hey, it’s not who FU*KED you before, it’s about who FU*KING you now. Don’t even give a man the power to think that he has something over you because you may have not saved the suck back in the day or maybe a few days ago. We grown…and many men can’t handle a GROWN ASS woman who feel this way when it comes down to bonation (sex)…

Rules have went out of the window…Unfortunately

Everyone wants to be this nice girl and not do this and not do that and who are these guys wifing up now a days? Yup, the hoesssssssss. The big time hoesssssss too. Life has changed and the way men think of women have changed. Men only use sex against you as a way to control you but they can’t have that control over you if you don’t let them.

Being a hoe doesn’t have anything to do with the amount partners you had because if that was the case, most of us will be a hoe, but the PROXIMITY of what you do. That means that a girl can screw only 5 men in her life and if 4 of those boys came from the same block, she is considered a hoe. Thankfully for Rihanna, this rule does not apply to her because she is known on many blocks and everyone hasn’t hit that only maybe a few on the block of “Industry Ave.”

Rihanna seems to me as a young lady who does what the hell she wants to do and I like it but she better also remember that these industry dudes can be very vicious sometimes. I just hope she can handle it all.

Fellas will get further in life if they just shut the hell up and get that coochie but noooooooo dudes these days have a ego and like to assassinate a woman’s (who really don’t give a f*ck) character. Rihanna, keep doing what you doing…You obviously got something if these dudes who get more butts than astrays (Biggie) are mad.

I learned a long time ago in college that you can’t judge a person’s sexual identity on their sexual activity. So with that being said, she’s misunderstood. She can’t help if she is young, sexy, and free.

What are your thoughts??????? Please comment and share!